THE NUMEROUS DIFFERENT WAYS HOW YOUR EMOTIONAL ABUSER MAY BEHAVE: Spotting the signs early is essential

Does your emotional abuser say things to you which make you feel bad about yourself?  

Does your emotional abuser say they wished you were like someone else whom they name?  

Does your emotional abuser say how lucky you are to be with him/her/them because no one else will have you?  

Does your emotional abuser say I wish you would dress like someone else whom they name or say I wish you were as pretty/nice looking as the person whom they name?  

Does your emotional abuser say I am only with you because...and give an excuse e.g. I'm between jobs/properties?  

Does your emotional abuser say if I had somewhere else to go I would not be here with you?

Does your emotional abuser make you feel like you are walking on eggshells and/or too afraid to say how you really feel?  

Does your emotional abuser make you feel too afraid to say what you really think?  

Do you have to watch your p's & q's, bite your tongue or watch what you say to your emotional abuser for fear of their anger and/or abusive reactions?

Does your emotional abuser use menstruation/period shaming tactics to demean and humiliate you?

Does your emotional abuser withhold your own money from you in order to prevent you from purchasing period products or anything else you may wish to buy?

Does your emotional abuser make you feel as if you have to keep second-guessing their every move or turn the blame around on you when it's really their fault?

Has your emotional abuser moved into your home or accommodation via some other pre-text without any joint discussion taking place of either marriage, co-habitation or a joint decision or agreement to move in together?

Does your emotional abuser ever tell you they will deny they are living with you if you declare they are living with you to your local council for council tax purposes/HMRC/DWP or equivalent e.g. IRS?

Does your emotional abuser have any source of income of their own either via their own job or benefits, or does your emotional abuser expect you to pay for everything simply because they are in a relationship with you?  

Does your emotional abuser use the excuse of him/her being in a relationship with you to either hide in your home, not get a job or refuse to work themselves?

Does your emotional abuser refuse to work and/or claim benefits in their own right or does your emotional abuser pretend to act like the perfect and charming house-husband or house-wife without shouldering any of the responsibilities of the home, work, relationship, children and costs of general home life?  

Does your emotional abuser say or make you feel or think as if you are becoming forgetful when you know you are not forgetful?  

Does your emotional abuser say you have communication or conversational problems which you know they have turned around on you because you have never had these problems with anyone else?

Does your emotional abuser ever 'put you down' or invalidate you by saying you are only a poxy typist/shop assistant/office clerk etc when you know you are a valued staff member at work?

Does your emotional abuser invalidate your feelings?

Does your emotional abuser say you said something or did agree to something when you know you did not?  

Does your emotional abuser insist on cooking all meals and not allow you in your own kitchen when they are cooking to make them look like the perfect house-husband or house wife?

Has your emotional abuser banned you from any part of your own home/accommodation or taken over any part of your own home for use as their own which you are no longer allowed into?

Has your emotional abuser prevented you from doing your usual chores, following your usual routines or made you feel guilty about seeing your friends or family because you should be with them?

Does your emotional abuser guilt-trip you?

Has your emotional abuser ever asked you to put your property in their name or ask you to enter into a joint business arrangement/agreement with them by using the sale value or equity of your home/property without them adding their half?

Has your emotional abuser ever asked you to apply for loans for them in your name, apply for credit cards for them in your name or asked you to add them to your bank account?

Has your emotional abuser ever called you increasingly vulgar, demeaning or derogatory names?  

If your answer is yes to any of the above questions/scenario's you are being emotionally abused, coercively controlled, manipulated and/or gaslit.

Any of the above patterns of negative behaviour will make you feel bad about yourself and/or make you feel as if you are losing your mind which will make you question your own sanity which can lead to depression, fear, and anxiety which are some of the most common and uncomfortable emotions we can experience at any point in our lives.   Any of the Above patterns of negative behaviour can lead to profound emotional psychological damage which can last for years. 

Through education, guidance, life coaching, empowerment, confidence building and assertiveness training we are able to help you recover your motivation, self-worth, inner strengths and perspective which will enable you to take your life back from your emotional abuser.
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Many individuals can experience symptoms associated with painful and traumatic circumstances especially lengthy, prolonged childhood abuse, severe neglect and/or lengthy emotionally abusive relationships. 

Most PSE, PTSD and C-PTSD are deep rooted in feelings of guilt and/or shame which can lead to anxiety, fear and overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, dissociation and emotional numbness which are just a few of the emotions which can linger on from post traumatic events.  

We can educate, guide, life coach, empower and build your confidence to help and enable you to recognise, emerge from and eventually overcome these feelings and guide you through the processing of post traumatic events which will lead towards your personal survival and recovery.